It’s like being alone when you’re in the same room.
Your partner is there, but you still feel so disconnected.
It could be that you’re asking yourself,
“Why do I keep dating the exact same type of person (or maybe even the exact same person), even though I know it won’t work out?”
“How does he NOT get how distant we have become?”
“If he would only fix this ONE problem, we’d be so much happier!”
You’ve been thinking about it for awhile now. You’ve even made suggestions that you go to counseling together.
But, he’s not on board. You hear things like, “stop being so dramatic,” or “don’t make such a big deal out of this.”
Except it IS a big deal, and it’s eating away at you!
At night, you think about all the crap from that day and end up feeling even worse, and those extra glasses of wine don’t help you feel better, not for the long term anyway.
What if you could start to regain a feeling of some control over your feelings so you could calmly and clearly communicate with your partner?
What would it be like to say what you mean in a way that was heard instead of dismissed?
How would your relationship be different if you felt connected instead of feeling like you’re just roommates?
Better yet, what if you found yourself looking across the table and feeling loving toward (instead of irritated by) that person looking down at their phone?
I know, you’re thinking, sounds great, Carolyn, but he already said no to couples counseling…
But that isn’t your only option.
Learning about your own communication and attachment styles, behavior patterns, emotional triggers, and then taking action with what you’ve learned can make a world of difference in your relationships.
You can learn to find a sense of control, even in highly-emotional situations, so you no longer have to feel like something is wrong with you or like you’re overreacting.
Find a sense of joy, satisfaction, and love in your relationships.
You can reconnect. Counseling can help.
The Joy Effect offers relationship counseling for individuals in The Woodlands, TX and online counseling throughout Texas. If you feel like you’re ready to find better connections in your relationships, reach out by clicking the button to schedule your complimentary consultation so you can start authentically connecting with the people most important in your life.